After a discussion with an amazing femme friend;
How many times does this happen to you: You get ready in the morning, put on a cute outfit, do your hair, and stroll outside. Maybe you're heading to class or some other place. Then someone decides to yell something stupid at you. "Hey baby" or "Hey Sexy" or "What's up mama?"
Most of us don't know how to react. It sort of stops you in your tracks. You take at look at them, seeing their smirks, as if they know you can't do anything about it. Most of us just walk faster away, hoping they don't follow.
I was talking to a close friend of mine, and we were wondering how cat-calling is still around. You'd think by the laws of Darwin that such stupidity would have rendered these idiots totally virginal for life. But somehow they manage to mate again and again, so even now, in 2010, cat-calls are alive and well. You have to ask yourself, how often does such idiocy work? How many times after hearing the eloquent "What up sexy" does a woman turn on her heels, run over to them, thrusting her number in their faces? Has a cat-call ever produced a night in bed, let alone a relationship?
The biggest frustration is how cat-calling can take all of the power out of a person. You can get ready in the morning and feel amazing. You look in the mirror and feel totally powerful. But with just a few words you can feel completely defensless.
Well, for all you cat-callers out there, I have some news for you. I know I look good, but I do NOT need you to tell me. I did NOT put on this outfit for you. I will NEVER sleep with you, date you, or even give you the time of day.
I suggest you tell that to anyone who feels they need to call you out on the sidewalk.
So don't tell me I'm beautiful. I already know that much.
Sometimes I like hearing cat-calls. I rarely ever hear that I'm attractive, cute, beautiful, sexy, etc, so even while I'm kinda offended by that noise, I also kinda like it.
ReplyDeletep.s. this is Bananas
You should hear it more often, and not from idiots. :P
ReplyDeleteWhat's even worse is just plain insults being thrown out of the window. For me, mainly "fag" and "you're gay". They aren't even some sick way of commenting on your beauty. They're just plain insults. It's happened to me only a few times this summer, but the thing is those few times were the first times ever for me--random people just shouting out the window. I ignored it like I didn't even hear anything... but deep down, I was truly hurt.
ReplyDeleteI just don't understand the joy people get out of cat-calls and insults. I don't understand the gratification they get out of it. Maybe it's a personal problem for them? I don't get it.
p.s. this is the dreamer (hope you were able to get that reference)